Pa loved to cook and my Chinese cooking style is actually very much influenced by his. We weren't a particularly affectionate family. He was not used to express his love openly and I always think he did it through his food. Before he was ill, he would cook for us whenever we visited him with the families. Every year during Chinese new year and on our Lunar Birthdays, he would cook up a storm, whipping up delicious traditional dishes for his children and grandchildren. We consensually agreed that he was the better cook in the household and we all took great pride and satisfaction in the meals he cooked for us as we fondly remember him and his cooking.
Pa’s way of expressing his love through his food will continue to be part of my family. Cooking for my family on weekends and creating special menus on their birthdays will continue for life, at least for my life until I take my last breath on this Earth.